How do you parent an eighteen year old?
For years you have diligently watched what your child ate, monitored naps and taught table manners. At eighteen, you are entering into a new stage. You will recognize this because you will hear your child say "I am an adult now". This phrase is thrown like a gauntlet at your feet. The relationship has changed and it helps if you acknowledge it while keeping some basic principals:

1. Your adult child still needs guidance, as we all do. This is more readily accepted in the form of suggestions and discussions.
2. Your father was right when he said "this is my house and my rules". Explain to your eighteen year old that they are an adult and deserve to be able to come and go at all hours of the night, however, this will have to wait until they get their own residence since it disturbs your sleep.
3. Since your child is an adult they should be contributing to the household. This can be in any manner that you agree on. It can mean routinely emptying the dishwasher, mowing the grass or even contributing to the expenses of the household. Remember, a real adult has responsibilities.
4. If you are paying for college or trade school, set some rules in advance. A simple rule is that you will only pay for a course once. Any failed courses that need to be repeated will be their responsibility.
5. Set a good example. As always, watch what you say, eat, and do. Your eighteen year old is still learning how to be an adult.
6. You can still strive to keep them safe. It's what we do as parents. Offer to pick them up from any party if they or their friends have been drinking.
7. You can still help them. Stick a first aid kit and jumper cables in their car. Hopefully, your child's moral compass is set and he knows right from wrong. This may not always be so apparent when he first becomes an adult and wants to test the waters. Be patient and someday you will learn to appreciate this new adult relationship you have with your child.